A Little Bit About Me
Marriage is undoubtedly a blessing of Allah the Almighty. The benefit it holds for the physical and spiritual upliftment of a person cannot be expressed in words. Two strangers, who, till yesterday, did not even know the other one existed, they start loving and caring for each other in such a way that after marriage, they exist for each other.
Sadly, today marriage is being turned into a mockery. The cases of divorce in Muslims are growing at an alarming rate. The main blame lies in the fact that people are just seeing superficial things and speeding up to marry just on what they see. They are not giving the appropriate time to understand the person whom they want to marry. Some profiles that I read here make me feel like I am on a job website rather than a matrimonial one. People are not asking the right questions. We are here for a spouse, not to hire an employee.
I am a Scholar of Islamic studies, Alhamdulillah. But in reality, I consider myself still a student of Islam. The more I learn, the more I come to know that I have to learn more about this beautiful religion. Tasawwuf or Sufism is one field of Islam that motivates and inspires me a lot, especially to be a better person from inside than just the appearance. Alhamdulillah, I have a detailed study on this subject and have benefited quite a lot. Aqeedah and Fiqh are other branches of Islamic theology that interest me the most.
For the record, I am not a Salafi/Wahabi/Deobandi or a Shia/Shiite or an Ahmadi/Qadiyani or a Quranist or a pseudo-Sufi. I classify myself as a Sunni Sufi Muslim, also known as Sunni Barelvis in the Indian subcontinent. Let me assure you that I am not the dancing and whirling type of present day "Sufis" nor am I amongst those who have totally backtracked the teachings of Deen in favour of their desires and lusts. In our times, Sufism and Sufis are distorted terms. In reality, Sufism or Tasawwuf is a field that defines a person who he really is and its main focus is the well being of the heart in spiritual terms. I am sure all will agree that greed, lust, anger, jealousy, envy, arrogance, haughtiness, grudge, hatred, deceit and many other negative emotions are found in each of us but how many of us are actually making an effort to fight and overpower these emotions? I think if we truly ask ourselves, we would find that we are way behind in fighting these negative emotions, emotions literally corrupting and decimating us inside out and yet, we remain careless. How can we expect ourselves to contribute to others when we are ourselves on the brink of self-destruction? Tasawwuf teaches a person to rectify himself first, to know where he stands and to remain humble and obedient to Allah the Almighty. It teaches us humility, it teaches us to eliminate the "I" within "I am this, I am that". It helps us to recognize the evil within, our Nafs (egos, desires and lusts) and the evil outside, the wretched Shaitan and acts as a deterrent against these hidden enemies. Without Tasawwuf, a person is just a body of bone and flesh, nothing more. Tasawwuf brings life to our dead and rusted hearts and prepares our hearts to be the place where all the Hidayah or guidance can stay well rooted.
I was born and brought up in Saudi Arabia. My whole childhood and late teen years were spent in Saudi Arabia, so one can say, I am equally accustomed to the Arabian culture as I am to the Indian culture. I can understand and speak fluent English, Urdu, Hindi and have a level of fluency in classical Arabic and Persian. I am also accustomed to various cultures of the world as I had interactions with people of many ethnicities whilst growing up in Saudi Arabia.
Alhamdulillah, Allah the Almighty has kept me safe from all sorts of intimate physical interactions with women. I also have never smoked cigarette or hookah. I have never used drugs. I have never drank alcohol. I have never been arrested.
I belong to the Shaikh caste for those who are interested to know. My mother is a descendant of Sayyiduna Abu Bakr As Siddiq (May Allah the Almighty be pleased with him).
What I Am Looking For
Usually, I don't get many views nor likes nor messages on my profile. I understand that my identity, my appearance, my views and my geographical location might not be appealing for most of the members on this site. Some might differ with me on religious matters, some might feel a mismatch in practicing Islam and some might be limited by their own responsibilities. Whatever the reason, I am who I am, Alhamdulillah and I have no complaints with anyone as to why I am still single. There is a reason for everything. If in my destiny, bachelorhood is written, Insha-Allah, you won't see me die complaining. I am trying my level best to find a wife in this life itself and to have a happy married life, with children Insha-Allah but I can only try. I cannot force anyone to accept me nor do I like to be forced to accept someone with whom I do not feel a connection.
Now, coming to the woman of my dreams, let me sleep first, see who she is in the dream, whenever it comes, if it ever comes and then share it here. But, I don't have the time nor am I a person who works on dreams. I work on realities and the reality is that it is time to stop dreaming, for all of us, for the perfect spouse. This life itself is not perfect, this world itself is not perfect, this is not Jannah where everything and everyone is perfect, so we must accept everything and everyone with their imperfections and carry on to achieve the only goal we have been sent for in this world, to achieve the pleasure of Allah the Almighty and His Beloved Prophet Muhammad (Peace and Blessings be upon him).
If you think and feel strongly that you can help me, this imperfect man, achieve this goal and you also strongly feel that I can help you achieve this goal, please feel free to get in touch. I would be honored to meet you, to marry you and to be raised on the Day of Judgement as your husband.
One aspect that I would like to shed some light on is that because of the open (read Haram) culture creeping amongst Muslims nowadays, many Muslims have had either Haram relationships before or have seen some Haram things and they have this opinion of how their future spouse must be physically, based on the obscenities they practiced or saw. First of all, one must do sincere Taubah from any Haram they have committed. Secondly, one forgets that Allah the Almighty gives Barakah in Halal pleasures only, that can never be felt in Haram things. Whoever we marry, he or she must be the only one who must be in our thoughts and all sorts of pleasures must be confined to him or her only. All sorts of comparisons with others must cease. There are many Blessed Hadiths that help to understand the intimate relations between spouses, one must study them and be content with the ways mentioned in them.
I always value a beautiful heart over a beautiful face. Usually, everyone says this but as I have aged and matured, Alhamdulillah, I say this, not just in words but from the depth of my heart. I dont want to marry just on the basis of looks. Looks can and will fade but a beautiful heart is forever. Does this mean that a beautiful face has no value? Wrong, it does have a value and physical attraction too plays an important role in deciding who to marry but it is not the only deciding factor.
I do not mind marrying a divorcee or a widow or a revert. An unfortunate past of her does not mean she cannot be the best present and future for me. I cannot marry someone with children as of now. It's not that I do not like children, in fact, I love children but I am so much involved in other responsibilities of life, I feel that I won't be able to give them the proper love and care that would be required from me. If I do not get married and my responsibilities change and I feel I can take proper care of my step children, I will change my status here into I do not mind marrying a single mom.
I will not move to any other country for marriage. All those living in advanced countries can breathe a sigh of relief. I am not one of the visa-mongers. If I ever wanted to move to another country, I would do so if and when I would like, not through marriage. So, be happy.
I hope that I have presented myself as a genuine candidate. If not, thank you for reading. If yes, please do get in touch through message and permission to see your private pics and please, please, write a little bit in detail about yourself in your profile.